Why Doulas Should Discuss Prenatal Expectations and Postpartum Reality with their Clients
As a postpartum doula it is important to talk seriously about how prenatal expectations can differ from their actual lived reality after baby is born.
Although the woman might be mostly focussed on the upcoming birth, these are important discussions to have especially when we know that the difference between what they expected and what is going on can cause a lot of pain.
We cannot predict what the postpartum will bring for them and what they might be experiencing;
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How soon you explain to your older child that you are having a baby is your own choice but do remember that hearing from people outside the family can make your child feel excluded and this is not a good basis for sibling harmony.
For younger children with little sense of time, it is best to link the birth to an event they do understand such as “after Christmas” or “before your next birthday” or “around the time we have our Easter eggs.”
Setting up the Birth Space
The environment and energy of the birth space affects the labouring client and support people. Here are some ways doulas help set the space.
Most importantly, before entering the birth-space, “baggage” must be left outside. Pause before going in. Turn off phone-ringer. Tidy your appearance and put on your nametag if you have one. Take a deep and calming breath.
Here are some practical things doulas can do in the room:
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1). Bring some fresh fruit – even a small bunch of strawberries can taste great!
2). Refill water bottles and offer tea or fresh juice.
3). Offer to hang a “Do Not Disturb” sign to restrict visitors so clients can rest.
4). If they’re at the hospital, remind them that they can ask non-medical staff and visitors to come back later - after the new family nap or after a visit is complete.
What does a Postpartum Doula Do?
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Postpartum Doulas help new families navigate the early days and weeks, through a variety of hands-on practical skills, support, compassionate presence, education and referral.
Postpartum doulas assist the new mother and family after her birth in the birth setting itself or later in the home – with presence, breastfeeding support as well as care of the mother and newborn, family and household.« prev 1 2 3 next »